No Sparks Email

So many of you know that my infamous "no sparks" email template has become quite popular these past of couple of years. Like most multi-tasking women I thought it was appropriate to conjure up an email template to write to a guy who you just didn't feel "the spark" with after the first date or two. Its just a considerate way to let them down and be honest with yourself. In this day in age of online dating and technology let's be real, we need something like the "no sparks" email, its like our own personal "cheat sheet" for dating! I feel like this should be one of those "modern girls guides to living rules"...# 131 When it doubt type the "no sparks" email out...So I have decided to post my latest and great version of this email for you

Version 1: After a First Date (or could be used after 2-3 dates)
Hey (insert name),
so first and foremost I have to say that I really think honesty is a virtue and I want to be honest with you moving forward because I think its the right thing to do. Although I have had a really great time hanging out with and getting to know you, I would be lying if I didn't say that I feel like there is something amiss, you know "the sparks". I don't believe in playing games or wasting anyones' time so I wanted to come clean with you about this before this progressed any further. Simply put, you deserve the best and all of the sparks this world has to give and so do I....

I am sorry if I led you on in anyway as this was never my intention. I truly wish their was an easier way to put this but I don't think hallmark has made a card for it yet ;P Regardless, I wish you the best in the pursuit of your plus one.

-Insert your Name

Version 2: Dating after 4-5 weeks...

Hey (Insert Guy's Name)
Thanks again for last night you are truly a great guy, and although I did have a good time with you I wanted to come clean and just say that I don't think the spark is there like I thought. I truly apologize if I led you on in any way but know that this was never my intention. At the end of the day I just feel that we are in different places in our lives and want different things. Its neither good nor bad just the reality of the situation. What I can say undeniably is that you're going to make some girl very, very happy someday but I think that day is too far away for me.
I hope we can still be cool if we run into one another - I've definitely had fun with you!

-(Insert Your Name)

Verison 3: After dating for a month or 2....

(Insert Guy's Name)
I wanted to write you this email to clear the air about a few things.....listen our relationship was what it was- a fun, carefree, unexpected series of events, nothing more and nothing less. I am sorry if I have hurt in any way that was never my intention, and honestly I thought things slowly died and all was well.

We are just worlds apart and need to go our separate ways. I wish you all the luck in the world finding your plus one..you deserve the best.
-(Insert Your Name)

Smooches,

Madame K!

Doppelganger Alert

OK in honor of Doppelganger week on Facebook I am posting pics of Sandra Bullock. If had a dollar every time someone said I looked like her I would be rich! Its a great compliment though, who doesn't love Sandra?

Smooches,

Madame K

Olive Oil Gelato-Yum!

A few months back I was in NYC attending a little house party that my sister hosted and little did I know that night that one of the guests would be bringing my newest craving, olive oil gelato! Yes I know what you are all thinking, what a funky combo right? That' s the thing though that if you really think about its a dreamy combo, because the smooth texture of the olive oil pairs beautifully with the silkiness of the gelato, and then you garnish it with fresh pressed olive oil and some sea salt and its a cravers delight, believe me!

Here's a shout out to a fellow blogger who posted the reciepe for this gelato if you dare to make it. If you are like me and aren't at that level of expertise yet you can always enjoy the stuff that Mario Batali has crafted up in his kitchen, although this would require a visit to NYC.

Smooches,
Leigh-Anndra

The Quest of a Lifetime

Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without.

If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with?

Fall head over heels.

I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back.

And how do you find him?

Forget your head and listen to your heart.

I'm not hearing any heart.

Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back.

Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this.

To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all.

You have to try.

Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived.



- William Parish, Meet Joe Black

Smooches,
Madame K

Elton John and Billy Joel: The Concert of a Lifetime

This past weekend I was one of the lucky ones that scored a ticket to the ulimate in rock showdowns...the "Billy Joel and Elton John concert". Legends in and of themselves, combined they are simply a symphony of bliss, that of which I wish never ended although they did play for 4 hours, I could have listend for 10..15...20..forever ever :)

Some lyrics that spoke to me by Billy...
"I said I love you and that's forever
And this I promise from he heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are."

-Just the Way You Are

"I don't need you to worry for me cause I'm alright
I don't want you to tell me it's time to come home
I don't care what you say anymore, this is my life
Go ahead with your own life and leave me alone."

-My Life

"She's got a smile that heals me
I don't know why it is
But I have to laugh when she reveals me
She's got a way about herI don't know what it is
But I know that I can't live without her anyway..."

-She's Got a Way

"You may be right I may be crazy
But it just may be a lunatic you're looking for
Turn out the light
Don't try to save me
You may be wrong for all I know
But you may be right."

-You May Be Right

The Making of My Chinese Qipao Dress

So I just returned from my amazing trip to China and I wanted to share the story of how I got my Chinese qipao dress made. It was a darky and stormy night in Shanghai, just kidding, actually it was a beautiful and airy night in Shanghai and Whitney and I were strolling down the streets of the French Concession area when we stumbled on row of traditional Chinese qipao dress shops. After hearing about how amazing Whitney's customized qipao dress was that she had made in Beijing I had really wanted one and now, here in Shanghai with only 3 days to go before I left, fate brought me to this street--yes life was was good!




So we choose this one store to go in and the rest was history...I choose the red and gold traditional print after seriously considering this print with the geishias (which are Japanese by the way). I communicated in English and my dress makers in Chinese but somehow all this worked as I explained to them that I just wanted the frog clips at the top of the dress and also wanted it to fall just below my knees.

I went in the next day to get my fitting so that everything was perfecto and I was lucky enough to have my friend Sunny with me, who is Chinese and could assist me with the language barrier. Overall I was very impressed about the workmanship of the dress and during the fitting was pretty amazing how they could turn this dress around so quickly. Geesh this would be incredible to have a dress-maker like this in states, can you imagine how much fun it would be do pick out your own fabrics and have everything customized to your body? Oh well I guess I will have to be rich and famous to have this here but alas I will have always have China to fall back on.




















The final result, an amazing customized qipao dress, now I have to figure out where to wear this thing? LOL!


Smooches,
Madame K

A Hankering for Katz

So in my adventures to NYC this weekend I was lucky enough to indulge my craving for a savory pastrami sandwich, cornbeef stacked reubin, and homemade matza ball soup. Don't worry I didn't eat all of that food by myself, yikers, who could with the huge slices of meat they give you-Dan and Cheryl were there to help out on this challenge.

Was it worth the hour wait and bouncing around from line to line to get this meal, you betcha, although I could have done without the supreme bloated feeling the next day from all that sodium in the meat, oh well you only live in once!

Dan was a super trooper posing for me...LOL!

Stacks O'Meat

Smooches,
Madame K